tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19181137690166247.post4280124638179771807..comments2011-02-01T14:44:10.573-06:00Comments on The Sarcasm Divinity: Balancing ActArt2Arthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12392246255038418640noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19181137690166247.post-32884856071364975532011-01-24T17:01:44.462-06:002011-01-24T17:01:44.462-06:00Very true, Jen. And all valid points to consider....Very true, Jen. And all valid points to consider. Here are my thoughts...<br /><br />1. I realize self-preservation does not mean becoming numb to my feelings. It is my coping mechanism. I try to compartmentalize my emotions and deal with them as they surface. I have to be selective in how I let them handle me, otherwise, I end up foregoing my responsibilities to maintaining my own identity.<br /><br />2. I can get past the idea, but the "conflict" inside me is a legitimate argument between what my heart feels and what my brain tells me to dismiss. Right now, that conflict is a figurative example of an open wound. It is the romanticized notion of the ache that accompanies hurt. And I know no other way to describe it. It's very easy coming from a place of security (emotionally speaking) to dispel that such a battle is unwarranted, but inwardly, I think we (I) need that conflict to have a basis from which to resolve our (my) innermost feelings.<br /><br />3. It's certainly romantic to think of true love as a complete selfless act. But realistically, it is both selfish AND selfless. Selfish, because the "high" we feel when we embrace it is addictive, and human nature teaches us to be creatures of habit and addiction. It's the emotional drug that our hearts desire, and crave to experience over and over again. Selfless, because it's a love that is greater than ourselves. A sacrificial emotion, that becomes blind to faults and is unconditionally accepting in its most forgiving form. Love can be one-sided. It doesn't make it any less meaningful, or any less real. There is a beautiful agony in unrequited love.<br /><br />That being said, I only know one way to love. Completely. While it leaves me considerably vulnerable, and jaded, I would bear the hurt time and time again, just to experience the fall.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16532042203783625705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19181137690166247.post-90502073148204107442011-01-24T08:35:57.277-06:002011-01-24T08:35:57.277-06:00Two thoughts - both of which I know I've share...Two thoughts - both of which I know I've shared with you before.<br /><br />1. Self-preservation DOES NOT mean becoming numb to your feelings. You should allow yourself to feel every last emotion that's bottled up inside. It's more about distance rather, so as not to perpetuate pain in a situation that is guaranteed to bring more.<br /><br />2. Why can't you get past the idea that your heart and your head don't have to be in conflict? I think more often than not, as humans, we convince ourselves of conflict where there is none. <br /><br />and<br /><br />3. (okay, I have one more thought to add). Love - true love - is not about what we want. I think it's more selfless than that. If your (generally speaking) concern is your own benefit from the relationship, then what you've found is not truly "love."Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14731423154106032227noreply@blogger.com